Where do I begin? We were friends for about 8 months. Started dating. I wasn’t looking to be involved but i ended up falling for him. He was sweet, charming, intelligent, kind, sophisticated, kind, warm, honest (so i thought), sincere (so i thought). He was everything that I always looked for. And since we had developed a friendship first i trusted him. When we first became involved romantically i totally had my guard up and eventually i put my guard down because I assumed he really cared about me. That’s how he made me feel. Well he ended up hurting me. Like they all do. Basically I assumed i was the only one he was dating i mean what would u think when a guys says stuff like " we always have plans" "that means priority scheduling before everyone else" " I was just thinking about you baby" " I always want to be with you, just because ur challenging yourself and applying a bit of pressure to ur life doesn’t mean I’m turning away, i respect the decision your making" " things are fine, but nothing beats having your lady with you" or some shit like that… so who the fuck is ur lady????? why????? how could i be sooo naive to fall for it??? How you a guy be totally into u one minute and be completely over it the next??? do they have on/off switches??? the worst part is that I think I’m in love with him. Im in love with him and he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. I LOVE HIM! I LOVE YOU! I feel so misled, I feel betrayed. I’m soo hurt. But I cant stop caring for him…

Well here is my story.. My name is A. and my husband is a jerk! I do everything from cleaning the house with no AC to Cooking his dinner.. He refuses to work or to give me any respect.. He says it’s all my fault he is this way.. Yeah I took care of him for awhile but ended up with a knee injury and still clean and do everything myself on crutches. He lies and plays mind games with the image that he does no wrong.. He has a child from his previous relationship and signed away all rights because he doesn’t want the responsibility of being a father.. He spends all my money and is sexual with me then does a complete 180 on me and is a total jerk.. Tells me my 2 year old nephew can burn in hell! I’m done! Can no long take it!

After living with my boyfriend of 6 months. He comes home and tells me he is moving to another province cause he cant find work. 2 days later he moved out. He went fishing with his buddy and never came back. We just moved into a new place together. We live in a tourist town, there is tons of work. He’s fat and lazy and blamed me for it! For making his life too easy.As if!  I spent tons of money on him. He never once bought me flowers, candy etc and his excuses for it was.. I do lots of little nice things you dont notice! Jerk. King Jerk. maybe he’s the leader of all the jerks. They can all move to the mountains for all I care.  I feel used and angry.  Men are selfish and just want to get laid.

I am young and ignorance seems to follow, but there is one thing that I have learned in my 27 years. Men are the most selfish breed of animal, or as I like to refer to them manimal, on the face of God’s good green planet. They think about themselves all day long, all of the time. If they do in fact seem to break free form there selfish ways, like perhaps buying you flowers, telling you that you look nice without having to ask, recognizing how hard you work, telling you that they love your laugh, I assure you this is all a scam. They just want to sleep with you, or for you to give them a B.J., or for you to snap out of your bad mood so that he can relax while he cons you into giving him a B.J. on the way to the party. You do it because he is being sweet, you do it because you think that he will think that you are sexy and adventurous, and what happens when you get to the party? He ignores you, he drinks beer and talks over you, he talks about his hobbies whatever they may be and he doesn’t include you. If you walk over to him he may put his arm around you, he may kiss you on the cheek, but he will not say a word, or look at you at all, you are purely there for show, and then he will make you drive home, regardless of the fact that you haven’t been out for 7 months and he goes twice a month at least. Admit women, men need us to take care of them; we need them for that occasional ounce of affection that they give us. But man o man, do we have to work hard for it. I am married to a struggling musician and we have two kids. I work full time, do most of the house work, make dinner every night, and I support him and his music all of the time. I break my back and work as hard as I can because I love my family and want what is best for them. I slap on a smile regardless of how I ache inside. I have sacrificed most of my person to get done what needs to be done and he never bats an eye. And why do I do this you ask; he is a good father to his children and can be loving and sweet to me (sometimes). I would be working just as hard without him, if not harder, so don’t think me a fool. My biggest fear is that I will be sucked dry, every last once of me consumed in that smile of mine, welcoming menopause with excitement as it will give me an excuse to go crazy. Letting everything that I have bottled up to avoid those endless power trips and ridiculous go no where fights where he ends up twisting my thoughts and words into a big ball of “you don’t care about me” bull shit. Men-o-pause. A pause from men. I can’t wait. I just hope that I make it.

Sincerely yours,

Blah … ;P

I was a girl who was young and  apparently “in love”. I had been dating this guy for a few months, but nothing too serious. New Years rolls around and I decided it was okay to take our relationship to the next level. We slept together that night. It was wonderful. I felt like I had finally found someone who sincerely cared about me. I was, OF COURSE, wrong. The next day, he calls me to deliver one very specific heart breaking message. He told me he didn’t care about me, he didn’t care if he ever saw me again, wanted nothing to do with me, and led me on the whole time just to have sex. Also, he had told me the night before he wasn’t drunk, so the sex was not alcohol induced. He was drunk, as he had finally admitted, and had no feelings of me besides “just some bitch I boned.” Furthermore, my period was almost 3 weeks late. I phoned him to tell him I could possibly be pregnant. Again, he broke my heart. He insisted that, if I was pregnant, he was going to put his lawyers into action. He wasn’t going to let me have rights over our child. He told me I didn’t have the capability of being a mother EVEN THOUGH I had a job, went to school, and still made time for HIM. He was broke, jobless, and made no effort to include me in his life. The only good news I have to deliver in this story is, I wasn’t pregnant, thank god!  So are men jerks? Of course.

My name is M from Michigan and I have recently dated an arab (from Saudi Arabia),  I tried to ignore stereotypes that they are controlling, abusive and disrespectful but 3 weeks into the relationship he wanted me to admit i was his property LITERALLY….. and he mentally abused me so much that I left him….. ladies, you got to realize there are better guys out there….i got called a bit*ch and psycho and so on but I know I’m not and I will never date an arab again….most of them do not respect women, they spend some money on you and think that they own you….next thing you know, they are screaming at you and two seconds later apologizing….. thank god i’m out of that shit! watch out for these assholes!!!!!! and know how to play the game,,,,,once you realize you’re better than taking any guys shit…they’ll see your confidence and melt over you! he’s calling me now, but i will never answer. take care!!!!!!

(Editorial note: Jerks come from all cultures. – RP)

Well, I feel bad for all of the stories on the website, but this one takes the cake.  I dated Steve for a year before I found out about his secret life.  He had a one year old child that he ran away from.  He told me that he just wasnt ready to deal with this mistake that he had made.  Three months later after we lived together I found cocaine in our apartment.  Not only did he have a child but he had a drug problem.  Just be aware ladies…they will surprise you when you think that you know them inside and out.  I graduated college with a 3.8 and am very ambitious.  Don’t let these losers take over your life.  He ended up leaving me to go back to his child where he still battles with his "bad problems".  Don’t be afraid to let go and know that there will be someone out there that will treat you right.  Go for the nice guys!

Here is my contribution to why I know the majority of men are jerks.  I tried an experiment at an online dating site by posting two profiles (both without photos).  In both postings I wrote up the same basic personality traits, interests, and what I was searching for in a man.  The only difference was that in one I said I was divorced and lived in an apartment, and in the second profile I said I was a widow and that my house was paid off.

Well, golly gee, can you guess when posting received the most replies?  You got it!  The "widow" who owned her home received no less than ten responses within the first 24 hours.  And the divorced lady who lived in an apartment?  She received one reply during a one-week period.  And here’s the clincher:  the guy who replied to the divorcee wrote that he was not really interested because he refused to get involved with anyone who didn’t show their photo.  And who was he? He was the first one to reply to the "widow" (who also didn’t show a photo), and said that he was ready, willing and able to meet with her any place at anytime.  And men claim that women are dishonest gold-diggers?

So what did that prove?  It proved that to most men, women are nothing more than a nurse, a purse and/or sex toy.

Before my "experiment", I did meet two guys online that I briefly dated.  Both wanted sex the first day we met, and neither one of them spent any time at all attempting to find out anything about me….who I was, what I wanted, etc.  It was all about them and jumping in the sack.

I am now going solo and am so much better off spending time with friends and forgetting about the dating scene.  I don’t have to worry about a guy being horney all the time, critical of me and my appearance, wanting me to live my life through him, putting up with his laziness and expecting me to wait on him hand and foot while he falls asleep on the couch.  No thanks!