You have been telling everyone that you just don’t understand why I have filed for divorce. Let me refresh your mind.

You/Your:

1. didn’t validate any of my feelings
2. made me question my reality
3. turned things around to be all my fault
4. constant disrespect
5. constant yelling
6. intent to dominate me
7. intent to control me
8. problems were caused by someone/something else
9. need to hang out in bars and strip joints
10. kept me off balance and baffled
11. made me walk on eggshells
12. inappropriate and unacceptable behaviors (sleazy pornography and strippers)
13. dictated to me how I should think and feel
14. constant criticism of me
15. cruelty
16. dishonesty
17. impulsiveness
18. pessimistic outlook
19. nasty power moves
20. are paranoid and suspicious
21. telling me I am crazy
22. critical of me and others
23. are ferocious
24. are hostile
25. have an arrogant demeanor
26. think you are better than everyone else
27. are unfairly competitive
28. think you are special
29. think you are perfect and infallible
30. only pay attention to stuff that affects you personally
31. are manipulative
32. have a lack of empathy
33. go off on tangents
34. judge others as wrong
35. moral intelligence, which is at a level of a 5-6 year old
36. are envious
37. are better than everyone else
38. are contemptuous of others
39. are cruel in little ways as well as big ways
40. either attack or withdraw
41. will trash anyone for your own self-justification
42. spew a load of bile, abuse, contempt and threats
43. think you need to punish me frequently
44. can’t see that you have a problem – it is someone else who has the problem, theyneed to change.
45. don’t want to change, the world needs to change
46. don’t like authority figures
47. are vindictive
48. are backstabbing
49. are evasive
50. are cynical
51. feel entitled to what you can take
52. expect privileges
53. opinions are better than anyone else’s
54. feel entitled to exploit other people
55. have a "gloom and doom" attitude. Henny Penny…the sky is falling
56. are spiteful
57. are impulsive
58. are unpredictable
59. have no remorse or regard for the rights of others
60. pit people against others
61. twist my words and actions
62. are ruthless, demanding, and cruel
63. are a control freak
64. are a pathological liar
65. constantly complain and criticize
66. have frequently outbursts of anger and rage
67. have a Jeckyl/Hyde personality
68. throw childish tantrums
69. are not satisfied with anything
70. are arrogant
71. use haughty stunts while raging
72. think He/She/It/They/Them/You are the problem
73. have an "you owe me" attitude
74. think you don’t have to follow the rules
75. are in denial
76. use verbal jabs passing them off as jokes
77. won’t allow me to have my own thoughts
78. accuse and blame me for everything
79. trivialize my job and ideas
80. don’t allow me to talk, you interrupt me or talk on top of me
81. you have a sense of entitlement
82. undermine and squelch my ideas/suggestions as not right
83. over indulge in gambling, drinking and strip joints
84. need instant gratification
85. call me very disrespectful vulgar names
86. think only you are important
87. think only you are right
88. think only you have feelings
89. think only you matter in this world
90. think you work harder than me
91. think you are sicker than me
92. slam doors when angry
93. break things when angry
94. think your anger is due to someone else causing it
95. smoke in the house to damage my lungs
96. moved out 5 times
97. belittle me
98. humiliate me in front of your friends
99. terrorize me
100. remind me how stupid I am
101. spill things and make me clean them up
102. know how to do things better than me
103. remind me daily that my job is not as important as your job
104. threatened to take my kids from me
105. threatened to make my kids hate me
106. told me I couldn’t make it on my own
107. two strippers whose real names were –Shawna and Kim
108. your girlfriend, Tori
109. lack of the words "I am sorry"
110. your need of spending our anniversary with strippers then lying about it
111. wanted things done your way, or it wasn’t right
112. wanted things done for you right now
113. are the first to point out others flaws
114. are a very mean person
115. suck up to people so they will think you are so nice
116. are a pathological liar
117. act superior to me
118. think it was your job to correct me
119. are conceited, argumentative, and selfish
120. made me feel worthless
121. had no conscience
122. are an authoritarian
123. liked to wake me up in the middle of the night so I would be tired the next day
124. liked to take things away from me
125. thought the things in the house was only yours, no one else could use them
126. always think you have some deadly disease, too bad you didn’t
127. expected me to be devastated when you withdrew from me..I wasn’t
128. have a dismissive attitude of other’s feelings, wishes, needs, and concerns
129. blame others for your circumstances and your failures

I will no longer allow any of these behaviors. You will assuredly deny each and every one of these things and insinuate that I need to see a psychiatrist. Go ahead, you can not hurt me anymore than you already have.

I was in this marriage for what I thought was love. Then I was in this marriage because I was stuck. Now I am out of this marriage for myself.

p.s. You Are A Jerk